週末隨筆寫一些跟女兒有關的事情（本篇中英亂夾雜） 2025.3.29

1. 沒特別解釋過未來式，不過會用 will，而且用的時機大多正確。
“They are my stickers, and I will give one to you.”

2. 一樣沒特別解釋，但是會用現在進行式，而且明顯分的出來差異。
“What do you want to do?”
“I want to poo poo.”

“What are you doing?”
“I am poo pooing.”

3. 猶豫的時候會說 I think… I mean…

4. 最近很喜歡學我說 “Don’t do that!”，對我跟對弟弟都會說。

5. 不太會分 want 跟 want to 的差異。

6. 每次問 “What's the highlight of your day today?”
大多會講跟誰玩了什麼遊戲或什麼玩具，只有兩次特別講了在學校吃了什麼東西，一次是漢堡一次是荷蘭鬆餅。

7. 隨機播放清單，播到了 Earth, Wind & Fire 的歌，問她說 “who is this?” 亂猜的話會猜 Chic。播到了偏東岸的歌曲，也會問我，”Is this Common?” 表示說曲風這件事情小孩子其實是非常可以感受跟分辨的。

8. 記事情經常仰賴順序，我如果問說 “What is the 8th month of the year?”，必須開始唱歌， January~ February~…唱到八月，才能回答我 “August!”，我正在試圖打破這個規則，但我不知道有什麼好處或是要怎麼做到，只是單純很好奇有沒有辦法而已。

9. 雖然離真正意義上的會彈鋼琴還有點距離（但可能也不遠了），不過坐在鋼琴前面彈起來的樣子很不錯，除了小拇指以外的指頭都很站。可以憑感覺彈出一些上課根本沒教但自己很熟悉的曲子，想是小星星跟 Jingle Bells。

10. 在大人的游泳池游泳可以潛進水裡游一段距離之後抓我起來換氣再快速潛回去繼續游，她現在游 25 公尺應該不用 2 分鐘，我預估大概 1 分鐘多一點而已就到了。

她說: I swim so fast. 
我問她說: why are you so good? (我期待她回答我 “Because I practice.”，因為有事沒事我就會一直跟她說 “Practice makes you better.“ 或是 "If you want to learn it, you have to practice."
結果她竟然回答我: Because I have talent…

Rethinking DEI: Strategies for a Fair and Inclusive Workplace 2025.3.15

President Trump just canceled the DEI policy in the government, and this executive order received a lot of support. This confused me at first. However, after doing a little research, I realized that people still believe in equality, but they often dislike how it has been applied in the recruiting process sometimes.

Establishing a fair working environment has never been an easy task. I don’t totally agree with Trump, but I have to say I can reasonably understand why he gained support from voters on specific issues. I try to imagine how I could continually ensure that a company operates fairly and makes everyone feel comfortable if I were an organizer. Here are my strategies:

1. Don’t get stuck on just one strategy:

We can learn many strategies and methods of management from books, online classes, and social media. We may feel that one of them is the most suitable for us, but don’t forget that employees are diverse and varied. You can combine different strategies and create a unique approach tailored to your organization.

2. Focus on the spirit, not the quantity:

The most important value of DEI is that we should stop stereotypical views based on gender, race, and personal identity. Many approaches can achieve the same goal. For example, you can provide training on these topics or prevent people who are racist or sexist from joining your company.

3. Implement new tools:

We cannot completely prevent bias if we let employees review each other or allow human HR to filter resumes from the market. However, AI tools may do a better job in this field. We may not be able to replace the human workforce with AI, but we could use these tools to establish a more equal process for recruiting and rewarding.

I haven’t been an organizer before. As an employee, I think this kind of company would make me want to work there for many years. If you are a CEO or a high-level manager, I hope this article is helpful and inspiring to you.

林綠出生的記憶小碎片之二 - 2025.2.23

1、2024/8/31-2024/9/3 總共在醫院待了 4 天 3 夜。中途會回家洗澡跟整理家裡，這段期間我是睡在病床旁邊的躺椅。因為嘉詩這次不擠奶，所以住院期間就是全力養好傷口，我則是全力幫助她養傷口。我盡量不幫忙吃月子餐，林紫出生的時候我幫忙吃月子餐胖了好多。9/1 林紫和外婆來看林綠，留下姊弟人生第一張合照。

2、2024/9/3-2024/9/22 嘉詩待在月子中心。因為希望林紫儘早回歸正常作息並回學校上課，所以平日都是放學之後我會把她從學校接去月中，再從月中回家睡覺，我不會在月中過夜，但是平日不用進辦公室的時候，會去月中陪嘉詩，林紫則是週末會在月中過夜。這其實是我相當魔幻的 20 天，因為規定年紀大的孩子不可以跟寶寶同室，但我大多時候都是跟林紫一起拜訪，所以這 20 天，我實際只有接觸林綠本人大概 2 次，其他時候就是一直透過玻璃跟螢幕看他。

3、一件跟林綠無關的事情。我一直都很想要在家裡打造雙語環境，但是我一直沒有鼓起勇氣要求林紫只能跟我說英文，我也經常不想花時間學習我也不會的英文生活用語。但是在林綠跟我老婆住在月中的期間，我實在懶得跟林紫扯一些不重要的事情，我就開始假裝是一個聽不懂中文的人。而我女兒所有要求除非她用英文提出，不然一概不會接受。她就是從這個時期開始願意開口說一些， “I want more chicken.” 或是 “I want to watch Sesame Street.“，我就發現原來她完全做得到，從這一刻起我家才真的是雙語環境。

4、今年中秋節嘉詩剛好會在月中度過，由於她是非常愛吃烤肉跟燒肉的人，我非常心疼她必須在月子中心度過這個烤肉佳節。所以早早就計畫好要買好吃的燒肉便當跟她一起在月子中心度過中秋節，我最後買的是「燒肉中山」在 BELLAVITA 開的「四行倉庫FOUR FOOD DEPOT」。總之是十分推薦，如果你本身或是有個愛吃燒肉的另一半，但你們不克前往燒肉店或是沒有任何座位，買這個準沒有錯。

5、2024/9/17 某一個應該是請了陪產假的平日，因為跟嘉詩約定了約會日，所以在約會中逛了百貨公司，剛好看到一間滿好看的全黑的同時非常具有機能性的裙子，雖然有點貴，但沒有考慮很久就買了。我一直很想買一件裙子，因為我經常跟我女兒說男生也可以穿裙子，可是林紫總是覺得，我從來沒看過男生穿裙子。我不能當那種光說不練的爸爸，所以我必須穿上裙子。無論如何，性別刻板印象必須完全根除在我兩個孩子的心中。

6、2024/9/20 跟老婆請假，跟昆宏、晨瀚，還有小潘去吃 Black Pepper，我們吃的非常滿意，但我一下子也不知道怎麼介紹這個店，總之就是義大利料理，店裡的內場有幾個帥到你完全不會在意他們是不是義大利人的外國人，以及非常道地的設備。你絕對會在這個店裡得到很棒的體驗。結束之後依循 Black Pepper 店員的建議，走到 XIXI TAIPEI シーシータイペイ 續攤。這是一個日式精釀酒吧，由於我不是精釀愛好者，實在評論不出什麼，但由於店員跟老闆都是日本人，如果你想找一些道地的酒盜跟日本家常料理，這裡可以獲得解答。（這是什麼異國料理日嗎？）

7、2024/9/28 我爸媽來看林綠。其實本來我爸媽想在林綠跟嘉詩在月中的時候北上拜訪，但是被我極力拒絕。我後來回想起來，有點後悔我在電話中拒絕我爸的時候語氣有點差，我想我當時可能是因為精神跟身體太疲憊了，導致心情跟口氣被影響。但我完全不後悔讓我爸媽在林綠回家之後才來拜訪，因為這樣他們才可以真正的跟孫子肌膚接觸跟抱抱林綠。

8、2024/10/26 Halloween。我一直都不太能投入萬聖節，但是讓孩子在萬聖節玩得開心，當然沒有問題。林綠扮成一個南瓜，林紫扮成小仙女。（實際上她的衣服是 Rapunzel，額外增添一副翅膀）

9、2024/11/15 一直到這天，才把彌月禮送完，去了一些有開店的朋友的店，拜訪了一些血緣深厚但是平時沒有太多聯絡的親戚，聽了一些不知道但有點有趣的八卦。無論如何，都只是想分享這份喜悅，並把這個福氣傳遞下去。

10、2024/11/30-2024/12/1 林綠第一次家族旅行，跟著嘉詩一家族來到宜蘭。我跟嘉詩都是大家族，所以林綠和林紫註定會在成長階段面對一堆名字可能記不太住的親戚。他們可能會是大型家族的終端，因為出生率持續下降，維繫大家族的長輩陸續過世，會降低家族的凝結力。無論如何，我希望林紫和林綠可以明白，有一堆可以學習的對象，可以尋求幫忙的長輩，不因為你花了多少時間跟他相處，只因為共享著相同的血脈和姓氏。 

我是無神論者，但我尊重你的信仰 2025.2.9

很多親近的朋友和同事，以及家人都知道，我是一個無神論者。我是一個無神論者，曾經我很喜歡跟別人說我是一個不可知論者。不可知論或者是不可知主義，意思就是對於無法證明其存在的事物，不否認其存在但是不知道是否真的存在。我明明就完全不相信神的存在，卻要跟別人說我是不可知論者有兩個原因。第一，我不想要被非常迷信或是有強烈信仰的人覺得我很傲慢。第二，向別人解釋不可知論是什麼意思，會顯得自己懂很多，好像很有學問一樣。

這一兩年，可能是年紀增長同時也更敢表達自己觀點的原因，我已經不再說自己是不可知論者。我很清楚我完全不相信神的存在，我也不曾寄託過神明和宗教。這樣的我，刻意定義自己是不可知論者的話，我覺得非常虛偽。我之所以不迷信也不相信世界有神，很單純只是我的原生家庭沒有這種習慣，另外我的教育背景和同儕影響，也使我走向比較不會將自己寄託給宗教的人格，可以說是有一半環境所致，另外一半是個人選擇。

我是一個無神論者，但是我非常尊重民俗信仰，我不會戰宗教。（但是會在最熟悉的朋友圈裡面開宗教玩笑）雖然不喜歡，但我也不排斥拜拜燒金紙。我很清楚，拜拜、祭祖、安太歲、開工拜拜、拜地基主，或是拜媽祖，這些都是台灣文化的一部分，伴隨著這種文化，我們和家人更親近，我們和同事或是住在同個鄉鎮的朋友更團結。因為台灣是一個自由的國度，我們才可以自由地崇拜神明和選擇信仰。這整件事情讓我覺得很可貴，也認為應該要保留其中善與美。

很高機率，我的兩個小孩也會長成跟我類似的心態。希望他們都可以把人生寄託給自己健全的人格，但同時也尊重包容不一樣的人。最後我想說，像我這種人，身旁有人在討論算命、人類圖、寵物溝通或是養一隻金色的雞每天要幫它換米跟換水的時候。一定會有人說，「林軒一定覺得你們又在怪力亂神了啦！」。對沒錯！我內心正是這麼想的沒錯，完全被你說中了，一點都否認不了。但是我尊重大家，也理解你們這麼做的原因喔！愛您們。 

Building True Gender Equality: The Role of Early Education and Mutual Respect 2025.1.15

Nowadays, there is ongoing discussion in Korea about maintaining gender-specific institutions. However, I think if any society wants to establish true gender equality, the most important moment is in early education. Inputting the core values of gender equality in children at a young age creates a foundation for a future generation. Also, I think different genders can focus on different spheres of this issue.

As a man, if you want to establish gender equality in boys’ hearts, it is essential to teach them that males are protectors, not hunters. In today’s society, males don’t have to hunt to survive and support families. However, being naturally stronger than females makes males natural protectors. Males can protect their wives, mothers, other women, and themselves. Moreover, men should strive to earn women’s trust by not taking advantage of them and by respecting them. 

As a woman, you can encourage young girls that they can achieve anything they aspire to, regardless of their gender. The fact that men historically dominated many areas and influenced women in the past doesn’t mean women can’t take on specific roles today. Women need to have confidence in themselves first, and it is a crucial step toward true equality in the future. Additionally, women should respect diverse men and seek mutual support rather than opposing every male viewpoint or increasing unnecessary conflicts.

No matter what the strategies are, I think both genders should respect each other and understand the natural differences between them. True gender equality will be achieved in a healthy way someday in the future.

林軒's Favorite Songs of 2024

Light & Salt - 오래된 친구

Joey Valence & Brae - DANCE NOW

桃子A1J, 王水源, 水蜜桃偵探社 - 尋人

Doja Cat - Paint The Town Red

B. Bravo - Atomic Bounce

JOYCE 就以斯、楊子平CAsPER - 都是weather你

ARTAN - She's A 10 But...

Rapsody - 3:AM ft. Erykah Badu

FRαNKIE阿法 - What a Time… ft. ABAO阿爆 （阿仍仍）, LEO37

AAA - Young Man

moumoon – Sunshine Girl

Funkadelic - Ain't That Funkin' Kinda Hard on You? (Remix) ft. Kendrick Lamar, Ice Cube

溫嵐 - 同手同腳

Ice Cube - So Sensitive

Lonnie Liston Smith - A Garden Of Peace

Terrace Martin Presents The Pollyseeds - Intentions

林軒與他的家人和好朋友們 - 林綠的 Gender Reveal Song

Why Not Seeing the Ad is Normal 2024.11.19

In a scenario where there are 20 million users and an advertisement campaign generates 5 million impressions, each user can see the ad at most once. If we randomly select four people, what are the chances that none of them sees the ad? This probability can be calculated using the hypergeometric distribution, which considers the total population, the number of exposed users, and the sample size.

After computation, the probability that none of the four people sees the ad is approximately 31.64%, while the probability of exactly one person seeing the ad is about 42.19%. The difference between these probabilities isn’t as large as you might expect, right? This highlights an important point: it is quite common for a small group to have no exposure to the ad, even when the campaign reaches millions of users.

The reason is straightforward: with 20 million users and only 5 million exposures, the campaign’s reach is limited relative to the total population. For any given individual, the chance of seeing the ad is just 25% (5 million divided by 20 million). When selecting four people randomly, it’s more likely that not all of them belong to the exposed group.

In marketing campaigns like this, it is crucial to understand the statistical nature of exposure. A significant portion of users might not see the ad due to the limited number of impressions relative to the audience size. This does not indicate a failure in the campaign but rather reflects the mathematical reality of impression distribution.

If you need a specific person to see the advertisement, you might want to use fixed placement strategies. For example, purchasing a time slot for a fixed ad position on a particular website or application ensures that the ad is visible during the exposure period. This strategy allows you to ensure that your supervisor or higher manager can see the ad you’ve purchased. Incorporating such an approach into your media strategy can be effective in special situations where targeted exposure is critical.