If you are a parent, I believe your expectations are similar to mine. Parents want to encourage their kids to do everything nowadays. When our kids encounter frustrations, we say phrases like, “I Know you can do that because you are the best.“, or “Practice makes perfect, so you should practice more to get better results.“ undoubtedly, we love our kids unconditionally, but is this kind of encouragement good enough? Should we also take care of more spheres in our family?
First of all, our world is changing so fast that we can’t just have a single approach and always be positive when encountering everything. Flexibility, resilience, communication skills, and adaptability are also crucial for survival. The path to learning these skills is learning from experiencing frustrations. We all have negative emotions when we face frustrations, and parents should teach their kids to realize these emotions and manage them healthily.
Second, families should embrace both positive and negative emotions. In my opinion, that is not the only but the most essential value in a family. Kids at school are not encouraged to cry or yell, so they don’t affect other kids. Adults in a company may need to hide their emotions when facing supervisors and clients. However, we as human beings do have emotions and family plays a role in containing all kinds of emotions. We don’t always have to be optimistic in front of our family members.
In conclusion. while it is good to encourage our kids and foster a positive spirit, it’s equally important to teach them how to face negative emotions and learn more approaches from them. Too much positivity would let our kids misunderstand that the warmest function of a family is loving each other unconditionally. A family has many sides, and it’s essential to maintain the balance.
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